You wouldn’t be the first guy to admit that he is not that comfortable when it comes to talking on the phone to a woman, especially when you have yet to really get to know her that well. I would definitely recommend that you do learn to get comfortable with talking on the phone, because it is one of the best ways other than being face to face with a woman to build up rapport with her. When you know how to use a little bit of phone time to your advantage, it can help to speed things up between you and her. That alone is probably worth taking the time to get better at this. While texting a woman may be the “in thing” right now, actually talking to a woman will get you much further most of the time.
Now, as a guy, you probably never went through the same phase that most women do when they are teenagers and they are on the phone all of the time. Guys usually just call each other up to talk for a couple of minutes and then make plans to get up with one another later on. We don’t do hour long conversations just for the sake of talking. Being that way puts you at a slight disadvantage, though, as women are much more used to picking up the phone and gabbing away.
Well, you need to get a little bit more on their level and these three tips might be a good start to help you out:
1. Don’t be afraid if there are some moments of silence between you and her, that’s natural.
A lot of guys will get kind of nervous when there is a long and awkward pause or even if it is not awkward, just a few moments of silence. Sometimes, that makes them try too hard to come up with something to say and they end up saying something that they wish they could take back or something that makes them seem less attractive. It’s okay if there are some pauses, as long as there aren’t too many. When you get worked up and nervous about those silent moments, that is when you are more likely to break your stride and that’s not a good thing.
2. You can always get her to do the majority of the talking and you do the listening.
It may be stereotypical to say this, but most of the time it is true. If you feel like you really don’t have a lot to say to a woman, then why not ask her interesting questions about herself that will get her talking because most women really don’t mind as long as they think you are listening. One thing to keep in mind is that you do actually want to listen, because there is nothing worse than hearing her ask, “so what do you think,” and not having a clue as to what she is talking about because you were not really paying attention to her.
3. Don’t call her when you know that she is going to be busy.
Calling a woman when she is busy is only good when you are trying to get “credit” for calling her, but you don’t actually want to talk to her. However, if this is a woman you have recently met and you are trying to get something started between you and her, then you don’t want to call when she is preoccupied with something else, because you are trying to build rapport with her. Nothing breaks rapport faster than her getting interrupted or being distracted because she is doing something else and you have called her at an inconvenient time.
How would you like to become better at talking on the phone with women and feel like you know exactly what to say to make a woman feel turned on and attracted to you?
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