It’s almost too much of a cliche to parrot the advice that women are going to get totally turned off by you if you are acting way too needy and attentive, especially right off of the bat. I think that the reason why it gets talked about so much is because it is one of the most overlooked principles of attraction and plenty of nice guys scoff at the idea that a woman could get turned off by them if they are really nice and attentive as soon as they meet her. It probably has a lot to do with the fact that nice guys tend to want to have a woman in their life who is very attentive of them, and so they project that desire out and believe that women must feel the same way. Sure, most women do want to meet a guy who is attentive, but there is certainly a thing as overdoing it.
If you think about it for a minute and imagine what it would be like to a woman who has just met a guy and right away he is acting as if she is all that he thinks about all of the time, you probably could see how that could become annoying and kind of weird. You would be wondering why this guy is acting this way before he has really gotten to know you and it might make you think that he is trying to mask something by being that way. Plenty of men have tried this approach and even though they usually find out that it does not work out the way that they hope it would, plenty more men are going to try to win a woman’s heart by being very attentive and downright needy for her attention. Talk about starting off on the WRONG foot, here.
You have to learn how to attract a woman without giving off that needy vibe and these tips should give you a good start:
1. You should not allow your world to revolve around a woman you have just met, no matter how hot she is or how attracted you are to her.
So, you have just met a woman and you think that she is attractive and she seems like exactly the kind of woman you could imagine yourself being with. What do you do? What a lot of guys do, is they start acting as if she really is “the one” and they start to immediately revolve their life and their world around her. I don’t want to sound too cynical here, but what’s to say that all of that is an illusion anyway? You might just be feeling like she is the one because you want her to be, not because she really is. And even if she does end up being the one, all you are going to do if you revolve your world around her right away is to start a pattern where you act too needy around her. You could end up losing her by being that way.
2. It can’t just be one sided, so you have to learn to make her want you as much as you want her.
One sided attractions almost never work out, and you know what? It does not have to be that way for you if you understand what you need to do to make her want you. To do this, you have to learn to use conversation to build massive rapport with her as well as to build up some really spicy sexual tension. If you have those two elements present, you can bet that there is going to be a part of her that wants you just as badly as you want her. That’s the way that it needs to be, otherwise if there is a relationship between you and her - it will be totally one sided. Those are never fun to be in and they never work out for the long term anyway.
3. You have to show her that you have your own life and that you are not clinging on to her because you have nothing better to do.
You are supposed to be able to go out and do your own thing. You are supposed to know how to have fun when she is not around. If she is a woman you have just met and you give her the impression that you have absolutely no life - what do you think she is going to end up thinking of you? I guarantee you that it is not going to be what you want her to think of you. Expand your social circle if you need to and make sure that when you do meet a woman you really like, that you can show her that you have an independent side and that you don’t need to be around her 24 hours a day to be happy and content.
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